Trisha wrote:Dear Nordis, Thank you so very much for your response! I am in the middle of working right now, so I must wait until later to write more... One thing, I absolutely lay on my dogs beds with them, I love to get down there and cuddle too

I lauged when I read this! Thanks for that!
Sugars Mom wrote:Nordis, great reply. Thanks for taking the time to write it.

Thanks Sue and Sugar. That's really nice of you to say! I feel all gooey now!
Karin wrote:Nordis,
Thanks for writing. I'm getting my pup (as is Trisha!!! Ha! Spilled the beans!) in two weeks and this was such a nice message to read.
Best to you and your pups.
Thank you so much Karin! I'm so excited for both you and Trisha! You guys are going to have so many experiences of, "Oh wow! Such a smart dog!" to go along with all the joys of puppyhood! I wish you and your puppy much success, health, and happiness!
Trisha wrote:Nordis,
As I reread your post, it filled me again with the excitement of receiving my pup in a few weeks, as I know she will be as all of the other dogs I have had in my life, a loyal, loving companion, who is capable of being in any public place, without me ever worrying she might become aggressive. I will do my best to introduce her to as much as I can, with loving and calming, good experiences, to build her confidence from the day she arrives. I am looking forward to having a pup that can do so many fun things, especially when it comes to agility. I bred horses for their agility, so they were also a bit high energy, I guess I am drawn to high energy
I have already started to think of the correct plan for her, when I must come back to Costa Rica to work for 6 weeks in November. I too feel that I need to find the right trainer, who will share some of and respect my personal training methods, get her completely comfortable with them, so she does feel as though it is extended family. I truly already feel terrible for having to leave her, but it is for her health and safety, I would love to be selfish and bring her, but that is not the actions of a good parent. There are 2 wonderful places that board dogs, one I call "Doggy Disneyland", they both have these incredible huge yards, where they have water features, all the dogs play and sleep together, it would be wonderful to take her there, but they are completely spoiled rotten (too many treats

)... Not a good choice for her in November, but when she is older, she will definitely get to go on day excursions, I think it's great for them to just be a dog, with their own kind sometimes.
Thank you, for your wise words, and your caring to take the time to write such a wonderful and loving opinion of what a Dutch Shepherd can be if loved and respected. And, for looking up the link for the chew toy, I am on it! Looking it up as soon as I finish writing.
Cheers!
Trisha
Hi Trisha,
I think you're right on about what you have to look forward to in your new relationship. I do also want to again emphasize the point that this breed may be protective of you, so yes, she won't become aggressive for no reason, but should she perceive some threat to you, then I expect that instinctive part of her personality may be presented. I've never seen any aggression from my pal, but that doesn't mean I relax and stop paying attention to our surroundings and the activities of the people near by. As I've likely said somewhere on this forum before, I consider it my duty to protect Rorhin from other people, and I don't care at all about thier perceptions of me when I do this because they aren't my priority. To clarify, I protect him from other people who are ignorant or stupid enough to cause us grief. Unless you ask first, and then I say, "Go say Hello," you don't interact with us.
Recently in a store, a lady asked if he bites. I removed my earphones which don't seem to clue people in that I'm not there to talk, and let her repeat her question. Given the fact that she was the third person in that aisle that talked to us, and knowing she had just witnessed two other ladies saying hello and petting, I was already unsure about her. But I explained that no, if he did bite I wouldn't be able to have him as a service companion. She stood there for a bit, and I'm not really sure what she was thinking, but she kept looking at him, so I asked if she would like to say hello. (He really likes to say hello to everyone, much more than I do.) She moved forward a bit and put her hand out, and since Rorhin was already seated at my side and being a good doggy, I said go say hello. It was weird because he didn't just go up to her like he usually does. Obviously he reads people better than I do. No surprise there really. So he steps forward a bit, and she puts her hand forward, draws it back, brings it forward again, and draws it back, and repeats over and over. It was almost like she was trying to encourage him to bite her or something. It was really strange.
At this point a few things are going through my mind:
I'm thinking, she's seen two other people very happily greeted and moofed (I looked it up and I guess the word as we use it in my circle of friends doesn't actually exist, but basically he's a happy dog and he leans into whomever and looks up at them with happy eyes and a waggy tail and "He transports petters to a world full of happy bees and happy trees and happy dinosaurs fighting with happy bunnies and there are also rainbows and blue skies all day and everyone is happy

" - it's a perfect word for what he does) only moments ago, and, she's already asked if he bites and I told her no, with a very good reason as to why he won't be biting.
I'm reminded of the time a neighbor tried to instigate aggression with a Rottweiler by taking her chewie so the dog would growl so she could declare the dog aggressive and dangerous because she wanted this dog to conform to her expectations of the breed.
I'm reminded of the life lesson of you can talk until you are blue in the face, answering questions a person has asked or giving advice, and it won't make a bit of difference unless that person is ready to listen rather than not listen, interrupt, or continue with the thought process and beliefs they are stuck in.
And... I'm hot, I was tired of educating people by this time that day, I'm sore and tired of standing, and I have to get this shopping done so I can catch the bus!
So I decided this was pointless and going nowhere, and there was nothing I could/wanted to do about it and I put my headphones back in and walked over to the items I'd been trying to get to before the show in this aisle began and continued with my shopping. Granted, maybe she had previous experience that caused uncertainty and fear, and yes, I could have told her that she wants to offer a fist, not fingers, to a dog she is meeting, and I could have had Rorhin help her out too, but the sense I got wasn't that she wanted to do anything except get bitten. I think I failed this particular encounter.
Now why did I just type all of that? Let's see... Ah. Ok, so I guess with some dogs it may be possible that this type of behavior from this lady may have perceived as an invitation to play 'try and catch my fingers with your fangs.' I've not had a person be aggressive or threatening to me yet, so I don't know how he might react. I do have a friend who has a dog that is so in tune with my friend that if my friend is nervous or scared the dog lets people know they better keep their distance with an audible growl. I'm glad my friend has a smart dog!
I guess I could save everyone time from reading my ramblings by referring you to this post from katm4110/Laura and Stella:
viewtopic.php?f=13&t=2320
I think that's a good example of what most of us need to be aware of regarding our chosen companions. It doesn't mean every dog is going to do it, but it's better to know and be prepared than it is to be taken by surprise and have resulting issues to deal with.
Rorhin and I have been doing a lot of off leash work. It's now to the point that if another dog approaches (almost always a little yappy thing) I can call Rorhin and have him come to my side, even to the point of stopping him during his charge to see yet another creature on the planet that really needs to be loved on, and have him turn around an come back to me. And I'm so proud of him because we've only had the occasion to practice this three times. and he's done it all three times! He wants to say hi to everyone, but I keep him away from people since that's a considerate thing to do, and better for everyone's (mostly his) safety. Off leash he turns around and comes back when I tell him too... mostly (lots of stuff still needs sniffing)... and never runs into the street... always! When we are around the public, greeting or not, we are on leash.
So yes, this Dutch Shepherd! Incredibly intelligent and quick to learn new things, wants to please and to love. And stuck with a paranoid, worst-case-scenario, angry old man who won't let him run up to people and won't let them pet him just because other people want to, and will actively pull him away from people who try to pet without asking then shake a finger and scold (educate) people to not disturb a working dog and to be considerate and ask first, though not explaining that the common sense they seem to be lacking may get them bit someday if they are trying that on every dog they meet.
Sorry, I'm really trying to focus here, but failing miserably. I still believe you'll do fine with a Dutch Shepherd! I just wanted to emphasize the breed does instinctively protect when they feel a threat is being made. I'm sure with the communication you develop with your dog you will be able to address such a situation should you encounter it, and that your dog will respond as you expect.
I'm really glad you are acting selflessly enough to not take her to Costa Rica. And yes, I certainly wouldn't be looking forward to a separation like that either. I really think the extended family idea is important. Hopefully there is someone in your life who can fill the role and will be able to help you both during your necessary absence, be it a trainer, breeder, baker, cobbler, or family friend. I'll send you good energy for that to work out easily and perfectly!
More often than I prefer, I'm reminded of a video I have around here somewhere about the dogs that were with the troops during the Viet Nam war. It's not one of my favorites because I'm way too sensitive and it's very depressing, angering, and sad in so many places. But... Americans were asked to donate their dogs for the war, so people actually sent their dogs off to serve. Personally I can't imagine doing that. I'm sorry, but I'm just too selfish and attached. Blah blah blah. There was one soldier who was paired with a dog, (it's been years since I watched it so details might be off) and they really just didn't connect completely. At one point the dog's former owner in the States actually sent a letter to the dog, saying whatever it is they needed to say. The soldier read the letter to the dog, and let him sniff it and all of that, and from that point on, they were connected. This has always carried so much weight for me. The dog accepted the new person beacuse the other person made a connection between the three of them. When I got my puppy, I sent a shirt of mine so the breeder could give it to the puppy, with the hopes that a familiar scent would make the transition into my home and care less traumatic and easier. I did the same thing with Rorhin, asking the foster family for a shirt from the person he seemed to like the most there, again to ease the shock of huge life changes. Maybe it will comfort you, and your puppy, for you to send some form of correspondence while you're away and separated. My previous companion did actually listen to my friend in Denmark when we talked on skype and had a bit of an established friendship believe it or not! I just had the sound on the speakers and the person would talk and my he listened and then looked at me and listened more and got excited and did the head tilt and so on, and oh the joy when the Danish Labrador started whining along too! Something for you to think about.
As far as letting a dog be a dog. I can understand that thought process. And at the same time, even though they seem to forget all about us and run off to play dog games, I think the domesticated dog really is happy when they are with us. I guess the two situations can't compare really, at least as far as where are they the most happy. I share the hesitation voiced here about many day cares. Though I suspect you will fully research any such business, remember I'm a worst case scenario thinker, and rather than day cares, I'd encourage you to facilitate friendships with fellow dog owners. Then you can spend the day playing dog owner games, and they can spend the day playing dog games, and you can all enjoy the merriment together! It's fun to read about people and their dogs visiting and spending time together. It seems there's always some funny story of what some one gets up to. I think I'd like to share in that funny stuff rather than miss it. And I do feel the dogs are perfectly happy being at your side.
Which reminds me. I guess my initial post could have been shorter if I had just expressed that I've been thinking that maybe it isn't so much that this breed needs a job to do as it is this breed thrives on the companionship and relationship. Yes, the jobs provide a focus, a shared experience, but I'm seeing the core of that is the companionship and relationship. I think that is the priority. Wow. So short! I talk too much!
In California you are allowed to train your service assistant yourself. Compliance with the Americans with Disabilities Act is a must
http://www.ada.gov/service_animals_2010.htm
as well as with specific state laws.
The general public, seemingly especially people with service assistants, tend to be Very protective and on guard when it comes to a person discussing having their dog attain service status. And rightfully so since abuse of the priveledge could result in restrictions being imposed on everyone! I even happend across one person who said on her site that if you needed to as where to find a vest then you probably didn't need a service companion. That was very frustrating and unhelpful!
I found this page to be the most helpful when I was looking for information. There are several links there that are helpful for finding service companion informations.
http://www.pawssf.org/page.aspx?pid=654
Similarly to what Stephanie and Odin have stated: "Registration of a service or support animal is not a requirement. Legally, what determines that an animal is a service or support animal is a letter from your doctor [...] However, California does register service dogs through county animal enforcement departments." So yeah, don't pay someone money if they tell you they will register your service companion.
If you do want to register, the United States Service Dog Registry is free.
http://usservicedogregistryaboutus.blogspot.com/
Free is a lot better than the $60+ I was about to send off before I started doing some looking around on the internet!
If you qualify for a service dog due to a medical condtion, or a psychiatric service animal/dog, then you're golden and your dog can accompany you into any place you are allowed to go as a member of the general public.
If you qualify for an emotional support animal, then your animal is not legally allowed in all areas where the general public is allowed access, but your concern of airline access is covered as well as housing issues.
http://psychiatricservicedogs.pbworks.c ... 20vs%20PSD
http://www.disabilityrightsca.org/pubs/548301.pdf
http://www.iaadp.org/psd_tasks.html
There are consequences for people who abuse this privilege, but the problem comes from the fact that you have to be approached and "interrogated" to be caught at it.
"[...]said, “People with legitimate service dogs are being questioned more than ever, and their fear is that they will have to carry around identification stating their disability.” [...]added, “Currently, the ADA states that business owners are only allowed to ask if the dog is a service dog, and what they are trained to help with.” The current law doesn’t require service dog handlers to carry around any special identification.
[...]also added, “I think the fear of service dog handlers is that they will be questioned even more. Right now our rights are very clearly stated by the ADA.”
Bev Klayman, manager of admission services for Guiding Eyes for the Blind has her suspicions about illegitimate service dogs. “I’ve seen dogs with service dog tags misbehaving and acting aggressively in public. The general public cannot differentiate between dogs that have been legitimately trained to be service dogs (and those that have not). These illegitimate service dogs are causing scenes and causing a bad representation of service dogs.”
One area where service dog handlers are running into a lot of trouble is with the airlines. With heightened security at airports, service dog handlers are receiving even more scrutiny. On a recent trip to the airport, Becky was told by the clerk at the check-in counter, “That’s not a service dog. Service dogs don’t wag their tails!”"
In seven months of having Rorhin at my side, I have been asked countless times by the general public is he a service dog, what does he do, what's my disability, and any of a number of very personal and insensitive questions. Don't think I don't pounce on people letting them know it's none of thier business and it's extremely rude of them to be asking some of those questions! I mellow when they realize their mistake and am forgiving, and hopefully this means the next time they see someone with an assistant they will be more sensitive and polite.
I have also been asked some of these questions by people in a position of authority who have the right to ask since they are responsible for the public places we are in. If they ask the wrong questions I tell them so, then I tell them what they can ask me, and I tell them the answers to those questions.
In all of this time, I've had only two people ask me to show proof that he is a service dog. Both of those instances were embarassing. The last one, due to the accumulation of the events of the day and my physical state, was worse. Once I found a space for myself, I experienced a private, steady melting of my composure from this is her job and so on into a traumatic event that left me very angry and emotional. When I was recovered enough to look somewhat unaffected I asked to speak to a manager and verified that this individual had seen us there several times, and that the manner in which the other manager approached me was, for some people, extremely insensitive and had it been a person who needed to be mentally focused it could have had a great impact on their ability to get through what they needed to be doing.
The problem is if you ask me for proof, I have to show you a letter of perscription from a doctor stating that for this reason this person has this animal with them. It's bad enough for people to be able to identify what looks like a normal person as disabled because he's got a dog with him in a store, but to have someone stand there and read that....
So please, if anyone is, or knows of someone who is thinking of abusing the privilege, think about how it affects people who might already really have a full plate of things to deal with.
It's not easy to find, but there are penalties for faking service dog status. Something like 16 states have laws currently, and violations can result in fines, jail time, and in some cases confisciaton of the animal!
I'll be quite now.
Good luck Trisha. Thanks for your niceness, and Much Peace to you and your new friend! I'm looking forward to pictures!